Dr. Devo Talks Respect. Again.

thetwistedrope:

There is a short story I once read. It takes place in a small town, and every so often, the citizens of this town meet up in the city square for this big shindig. The whole purpose of this get together is to draw a name out of a hat- a name of one of the attendees. The winner of this drawing gets a free stoning- by their fellow peers.

We often see this within the Pagan community, where a fight breaks out, someone acts like an ass for no real reason (bolding for emphasis because there can be times and places - such as when someone openly attacks you, let’s not speak in absolutes, please) - and yet no one says anything. That, or one (or a few) person/s try to say something- only to receive the above treatment by others. Sometimes it’s by followers. But sometimes the BNP has the largest stone.

When this happens, what do we do? Is there anything that can be done?

It’s a tricky situation here, because if you provoke the BNP (large stone and all) you could then have followers coming after you- which is bad enough as it is. Conversely, you could become the spectacle for your peers in which the BNP bludgeons you to death while no one does anything - or worse, your public stoning gets 479875 likes (in the story referenced above, a lady’s name was drawn, and she cried out for her husband to help her, as he handed a rock to their son).

So how does one behead such a monster? Why do we allow it to go on repeatedly?  

Every time a public stoning happens (and every time we continue to allow them to happen) we teach the newbs in our “community” that this is an un-safe place. Don’t you dare open your mouth or ask any questions because you will get stoned to death in a public forum. And not only will you get stoned, you will get stoned by some of the biggest names in the building. And not a single soul will do a damned thing about it.

And what then? How many great people do we lose due to our indifference? How does allowing this to go on truly benefit any of us in the long run?

The answer - as always - is that it doesn’t. Every time we allow this type of thing to occur, we shoot ourselves in the foot. Every time we degrade our debating and discussion skills into “OMG YOU GONNA LEARN TODAY THAT YOU ARE THE DUMBEST POOPY HEAD IVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE AND YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED BECAUSE HOW YOU SO DUMB?” we come off as illiterate fools and drop the IQ of everyone who happens to come across the scene.

And what gets me more is that every time someone tries to actually do something about it they are labeled as being overly sensitive tone police. Because everyone in this place seems to be a teenager with a complex (you know the one- the “you’re not the boss of me! don’t tell me what to do!” complex). Any time someone tries to say “Hey, you know- you’re being a bit hypocritical” or “you know, you’re being kind of an ass”- they get stoned as well. No matter which angle you take- you lose.

This has to stop.

This benefits no one. Respect amongst our peers should not be such a commodity. It shouldn’t be so hard to have a civil discussion. And I’m sure that some people think that “you have to talk that way in order to make people see ‘the light’.”

No. No you don’t.

You know why? Because those who really want to learn will be open to the idea that they could be wrong or misinformed. And those who aren’t open to new ideas?

They will simply shut you down (and are more likely to do so if you jump down their throat uninvited).

You know how I know?

Because I see certain BNPs do it every. Single. Day.

And no amount of niceness or crassness changes their mind. No matter how you phrase your objections or ideas- you are instantly wrong wrong wrong. And screw you on top of it.

So if it doesn’t work on a BNP, how do you think it’s going to work on someone who is new?

The answer is- it doesn’t.

 I know I am a crack-smoking, kumbaya singing hippy for even suggesting the idea, but how about we all grow up and learn to be respectful, huh? Or at least learn when our pot is calling the kettle black, and when someone legitimately says “Hey, you’re being a hypocritical dick” we actually listen to the idea- and change it- instead of sticking to our assiness like it’s some badge of honor.

Because it’s not a badge of honor. Being a dick is not a badge of honor.

It’s just being a dick.

omg so I found an early (different) draft of this in my astral blog tonight for reasons i don’t understand, but the post is still relevant, so here have another copy of it.

Tags: community bnp

A reminder that there is a charity thing going on.

so if you can participate, please do. :> It benefits one of our own <3 

(photo is not mine, but belongs to bigbadjackal)

satdeshret:

Yes. And yes, they are both aware of one another and talk and stuff. It’s a polyamorous relationship.

Wait until you have, like, 5 of them.

satdeshret:

Yes. And yes, they are both aware of one another and talk and stuff. It’s a polyamorous relationship.

Wait until you have, like, 5 of them.

bigbadjackal:

bigbadjackal:

As a random act of kindness, I will be accepting bids/offers on this votive bronze ankh that I created, on behalf of obsidianwitch. It’s 31mm, ritually pure, and perfect for using in shrine. It’s one of my original designs, completely handmade, and the one in the photo is the actual one that you’d be receiving. I reserve the right to immediately accept any bid which is over the price I would normally sell this piece for ($30 plus $5 S&amp;H.) All proceeds will go directly to obsidianwitch, including the S&amp;H.
Bidding starts now (Sunday 20th), will end on Wednesday 23rd at 4pm EST.
Update: First bid is in and it’s for $35! Can anybody beat that? Every extra dollar will help.

23.5 hours to go on this! Current bid is still at $35. I’m serious when I say every dollar will help, so by all means feel free to bid $36 or maybe really break the bank with a dizzying $37. ;)

bigbadjackal:

bigbadjackal:

As a random act of kindness, I will be accepting bids/offers on this votive bronze ankh that I created, on behalf of obsidianwitch. It’s 31mm, ritually pure, and perfect for using in shrine. It’s one of my original designs, completely handmade, and the one in the photo is the actual one that you’d be receiving. I reserve the right to immediately accept any bid which is over the price I would normally sell this piece for ($30 plus $5 S&H.) All proceeds will go directly to obsidianwitch, including the S&H.

Bidding starts now (Sunday 20th), will end on Wednesday 23rd at 4pm EST.

Update: First bid is in and it’s for $35! Can anybody beat that? Every extra dollar will help.

23.5 hours to go on this! Current bid is still at $35. I’m serious when I say every dollar will help, so by all means feel free to bid $36 or maybe really break the bank with a dizzying $37. ;)

Tags: signal boost

Thoughts?

cancer-witch:

Hello fellow pagans! As most of you know paganism, wicca, and witchcraft aren’t always the same things seeing as some pagans aren’t witches or wiccans and some witches aren’t wiccan and some wiccans aren’t witches and so on. I think the reason why so many people automatically bundle the two together is because so many books bundle two or more of these categories together. I saw a book titled “the beginners guide to wicca and paganism” and another book that was titled “an introduction to wicca and witchcraft.” When media bundles things together it can make it seem like the same thing. Besides this reason, why do you guys think so many people assume that these three separate categories are the same?

It’s because of crappy book publishers. PLain and simple.

Someone goes “wow, I think I want to learn about Paganism” and so they go to the bookstore, and what is on the shelves? Wiccan books. Books about Wicca. Books about witchcraft that are Wiccan based. Books about generalized paganism, which are really books about Wicca.

And if you go to the New Age store, it’s books about reiki and white light and angels. And books about Wicca. And books about green magic that are basically Wiccan. And even more books about Wicca. Annnnnnd maybe a book or two about Heathenry and Feng Shui.

That’s why.

Doesn’t help that most websites are no better. Hell, our Pagan pride events aren’t even very good at showing the diversity present in our larger community/sphere. And if you don’t know the special terms to find other parts of the pagan sphere, well, there is very little to indicate those things exist.

If people who are in the community can’t even get it right, I dont’ expect outsiders (aka media) to get it right. So I really place the blame on the popular content creators in our community.

swanofmischief:

I just found out that Bast/Bastet, the Egyptian cat goddess, is also the goddess of lesbians. Because it was believed lesbians were associated with the truth.

I’m not sure what to do with this information, but it’s awesome.

That would fall entirely under UPG. It’s not historically attested, so I wouldn’t really go running around saying that it’s “truth”, either, tbh.

Gotta be careful… a lot of books and websites are really really inaccurate :\

Tags: bast

@childofseaandshore (fuck you tumblr for not tagging) it is not my responsibility to tag the art that you are posting.

If you need assistance to figure out how to find the artists of certain pictures, I can help you with that, but you should be doing what you can to find the artists who are making the pieces you’re getting notes on.

Putting a bunch of unsourced art in the Kemetic tag is likely gonna get you some grumpy Kemetics. We don’t like it when people post art (or anything, really) without sources. Part of that “don’t be a dick” thing we talk about so much.

yo, how about you quit filling our tag with unsourced art, huh?

Tags: art thoth

littleredjackal:

trickstarbrave:

"all pagans worship the earth and stuff!!!" 

uhm excuse u teacher i worship a hunky jackal man and a cat

oh no teacher

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princesspruprupoo said: Hi there! I was scrolling along my dash when I saw you talking about shinto. I'm really interested in shinto and was wondering if you could tell me more about it. If not that's fine too. I kind of got down that the gods are referred to as Kami and that you worship them at a shrine?

littleredjackal:

(cont) A follow up to my previous question. Perhaps you could tell me more about the Kemetic religion? I’ve lately took an interest in religions so my apologies for the random questions

Hey :) no need to apologize. I’d be happy to answer curious asks.

Kemetic is a religion that put Ancient Egyptian gods as a focus. It’s like, modern Egyptian polytheism? The point is to live within Ma’at, which could mean balance, truth or justice. It could be summed up as “Don’t be a dick”, doesn’t mean that we have to be kind and loving all the time, but more like ‘be respectful’.
In Kemeticism we refer to the gods as NTR or Netjer (a single god), and NTRW or Netjeru (“the gods”).

If you want to read more, you can take a look at:

I’m brand new in Shintoism esp I only work with Tsukuyomi, so maybe thetwistedrope can help you?

BING

BANG

Kemeticism and Shinto are kissing cousins. yiss.